Life changing events…..
Have you had a life changing event where you think “What in the world just happened?” Was it an unexpected move, loss of a job, a spouse wanting out or death of a loved one? For me, it was the tragic loss of a spouse.
While sitting on our patio on August 25th 1996 with my husband Dan, we were catching up on the past two weeks as he was in the Military and just returned from his 2 weeks of training. We had been talking about our upoming 25th wedding anniversary which would be in a couple of years and had narrowed it down to a couple of things. As Dan and I sat there talking about our dreams, he gasped, turned white as a ghost and froze. We had two neighbors who were RN’s and came right over as we called 911. This was the day that would change my life as I knew it. It had been an mazing year for us as we had many fun things that had happened. Our youngest had just graduated from high school. We had taken a few mini trips with friends and family. Along with a busy summer with two family weddings, two family baby showers and three family reunions, we were talking of our plans for the future.
My thought was what was I going to do and what was God thinking…. As I learned to heal and trust God for what His plan was for me, I could only trust in Him that He knew what He was doing….Psalm 94:22 comes to mind as a verse I would rely on. It reads “But the Lord has become my fortress and my God the rock in whom I take refuge.”
Where do I go from here?
Unfortunately, in 1996 there wasn’t a lot of information offered for widows or widowers. You were expected to move forward and just try to figure it out – or that’s how I felt. Thank goodness my oldest brother walked beside me to help me heal as he had lost his first wife in a tragic car accident.
Fast forward 17 years as I had been praying about where God was leading and directing me. I was attending a funeral in May of 2013 when the Chaplin at North Memorial approached me about becoming involved with a group called The Widow Might Organization. I thought – is this where God wants me? I sensed God probing me, but I resisted with this idea for quite a while. Finally, last spring I gave into what I felt God was directing me to do. I spoke with Danielle Allen and she walked me into Lynn Hanf’s office as there was a need at MGEFC. And so the process began with what we affectionately call The Women of Light.
Where God is leading me……
It seems out of our greatest pain, God has a purpose. 1Timothy 5:16A reads: “If any women who is a believer has widows in her care, she should continue to help them …” with the guidance of Lynn Hanf and direction from the board of The Widow Might Organization we began to move forward. With some research on what was available to women who have traveled down this journey, we discovered there is a lot of information out there… God is faithful and He has promised to walk by our side and make us whole again.
If you are going through this journey or know someone who is and would like to chat, please let me know. I would be glad to talk with you or them.