What is you’re feeling about coming into a New Year? For the most part, I look forward to the new year. In reflecting in the past, my reflections are based on the previous year as to how that went. If it was a good year, I would think on what happened and how I handled it. If it was a year of challenges, I would ponder on what I could do to handle things differently.
In checking scripture, I found this verse and was surprised as I had not heard it before. Exodus 12:2: “This month is to be for you the first month, the first month of your year. At first, I took it literally. But then realized the first month could mean any month that you have changed. However, being it is the beginning of the year, I am going to suggest you think about what you may want to change in your life. That certainly does not mean you CAN change anything right now, but you can pray about it and think about it.
God promises to be there with us. In Revelations 21:5 He says: He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” God IS seated on the throne and is in charge. As he states, these words are trustworthy and true. But when we are going through tough times, this is so hard to believe isn’t it? When we are hurting and wondering what is next, a lot goes through our head.
It is easier said than done to put behind us what is driving us crazy. Philippians 3:13-14 reads: “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the “goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” Here are a few suggestions:
- Schedule an appointment with a counselor.
- Study the scriptures to help you through this.
- Speak with your priest, pastor, or Rabbi.
- Talk with a fellow widow who has gone through this journey who may have some helpful hints.
- Keep a journal.
This does not happen overnight but with time you will be able to get through this journey. Take your time with this process! May I suggest you also make a list of pros and cons about what you are going through. Many times, we just need to analyze on paper what is happening. Not everything we able to change, but we can look at our lists to see what we can. Cross off those things that are too much to handle currently. Start with the small things. Try to meet new people who have gone through what you are going through.
Another promise from God is Proverbs 3:5-6 which reads: “But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” This scripture stands true to so many things in life that we go through. Please keep in mind that Christ Jesus is there for each of us every step of the way. Will we continue to have some tough days – absolutely! However, there will be fewer and fewer tough days. Will they totally go away – they will not. We certainly do not want to forget those we have loved and lost.
May God direct your path as you look forward to this new year. Be patient with yourself and allow God to be in charge!
Blessings to each of you!
Encountering Widowhood 